By Shelley



The transition from Christmas to the celebration of a new year is an important time for most business owners. We are setting goals based on market reality, from revamping website content, writing programs, increasing social media, creating new giveaways, implementing sales targets, and much more. This year, I want to share with you a secret and surprising resolution that keeps me moving forward with centered conviction and CALM Power.

It is forgiveness, and it is powerful!

When running a business, sooner or later you will have to deal with forgiveness. At times, you may also find yourself dealing with situations where the offenses feel unforgivable. Trust me, I am not downplaying your situation; I had plenty of these resentments in life and work!

Many of my clients come to me searching for a new career path. These clients are loyal, hardworking, and smart; yet they are overlooked for raises and promotions. Underlying politics or business strategies left them undervalued or advised to leave via packages or other means. Sometimes, change is needed and the best option is to leave or start your own venture.

However, at the end of the day, it is YOU who deals with your loss of dreams and expectations. Without an honest review of “what just happened”, you’re left carrying baggage in the form of this pain.

I trust that, much like me, you have some toxic stories to tell. Processing these harmful feelings and learning the gift of all emotions is critical to your success.

Forgiveness is the secret to letting go. Until you forgive yourself, forgive the situation, and realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward. Forgiveness was my catalyst for change.

My business is an expression of my true self and essence. This is because I took the time to explore my messy emotions. This process may be difficult, but it is life-changing! I am living my ideal lifestyle, not mindlessly stuck on the treadmill of success that had me disillusioned years ago.

When I see my business growing , my son thriving, my husband looking at me lovingly, and my life built on a foundation of faith, I am propelled to keep leading. My success has encouraged me to lead others as well! Forgiveness is my window to leadership in all areas of my life.

Today, I am challenging you to move beyond the “typical” tasks of the business owner list of new year’s resolutions and to dig deeper for 2014. May this be the year that you make time to just be and accept yourself for who you are. May this be the year you look at your leadership skills and increase self-awareness. I made this choice 13 years ago. Enough serendipitous and synchronistic moments followed to convince my brain that change was possible. I registered a new belief. It was wonderful, and invited hope!

Don’t accept shallow and conventional exercises on how to turn resolutions into realities. Look at yourself in the mirror–physically, financially, spiritually, or all three, and choose to change. You are amazing and capable of change. When I observed myself in this way, I became fully committed and accountable to life’s pain and consequences.

When we both exercise the choice and perform the healing rituals to forgive, we become unstuck. This allows us to become the best version of ourselves. I learned to forgive and be compassionate towards myself and others.

In this new year, I am recommitting to that key message of forgiveness. When I think about all the tasks in my business and life, I feel a sense of CALM, knowing that forgiveness is at the heart of all I do.

Forgiveness creates positive energy. It allows you to focus on what’s most important in your life, and moves you to clear intentions and action steps.

Lack of forgiveness creates resistance. I don’t need resistance in my life! Do you?

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