By Shelley



Nod your head and say “YES”!

According to Al Siebert Ph.D., a Resiliency Expert, business owners who have specific characteristic patterns recognized by both themselves and others, will indicate a greater than average chance of establishing and succeeding at running a small business. See how you match up.

Personal Traits Checklist by Al Siebert:

In a previous job, you attempted to explain how something could be done better, and felt frustrated because no one understood or would follow your suggestions.
You were criticized for “making waves” or not being a team player because of your efforts to make things work better.
As an employee, you felt underpaid for the many contributions you made to the main purpose of the organization while others were overpaid for contributing little that was really useful.
When working on a project you get so involved you work late into the evening and much of the weekend.
You find that to have things go well, you have to do a lot of little things yourself.
You will do any job related to making things work well. You will do whatever it takes to meet a commitment.
When something goes wrong you look carefully at the reasons why and learn from the experience in order to do things differently the next time.
You are self-reliant. You have learned you can count on yourself more than most others.
When hit with a setback you see it as temporary, but surmountable.
You adapt quickly to new developments and changes in the world.
You have a complex, paradoxical inner nature. You are creative and well-organized, relaxed and intense, logical and intuitive, optimistic and pessimistic, calm and emotional, task-oriented and people-oriented, serious and playful, etc.
You are curious. You ask good questions. You want to know how things work. You experiment, make mistakes, and laugh about discoveries.
You anticipate and avoid problems. You can think in negative ways to reach positive outcomes.
You need and expect things to work out well for yourself, your family, your customers, and your community. You have a synergistic effect on your part of the world.
You have good empathy skills. You listen well and comprehend what others think and feel.
You welcome feedback about your actions and your product.
You are good at what you do. You conduct yourself professionally and ethically. You focus on getting results and can make difficult jobs look easy.
You trust your intuition and creative hunches.
You defend yourself well. You have strong self-esteem.
You have a talent for serendipity. You convert misfortune into good luck. When knocked off track you ask yourself, “How can I turn this around? Why is it good that this happened? What is the gift?”(by Al Seibert)
I see many of these characteristics in myself and my clients! Do you? Do you want to strengthen your RESILIENCY? As a Certified Emotional Intelligence Coach and Business Owner I can help. Resilience is another one of the 26 Social and Emotional Intelligence Competencies that is proven to increase your leadership capacity. Resilience is defined as perseverance and diligence in the face of setbacks. I also believe it is letting go of the old and embracing the new! It is the strength to master change and it is a skill that can be learned!

People with the competence of Resilience:

Know how to cope in spite of setbacks, barriers or limited resources
Are willing and able to overcome obstacles to get what they want
Bounce back from adversity and disappointments
Are flexible and adaptable
See setbacks as temporary and failures as isolated and short-term

Development Tips:

For starters, practice healthy living – we can’t be resilient if we’re lacking sleep, are stressed, or malnourished.
Build in periods of rest and renewal so you can face life’s inevitable tough times with strength.
Challenge the negative self-talk: ask yourself, “What’s my real belief here, and is there any evidence behind this self-doubt?”
See setbacks as temporary and disappointments as isolated, short term, and specific to the circumstance, not as permanent or applicable to all situations.
Learn from your mistakes and failures. Every mistake has the power to teach you something important; don’t stop searching until you’ve found the lesson in every situation. Also, make sure that you understand the idea of “post-traumatic growth”. There can be real truth in the saying that “If it doesn’t kill you, it makes you stronger.”
Read biographies and model resilient people and learn from them! (Tips taken from Dr. Laura Belsten and ISEI.)

Resilient people take their difficulties and turn them into something of value and purpose. An excellent example is Nelson Mandela, a leader who survived prison without losing his heart and purpose. There are countless examples if we look for them. Without resilience, we would not survive our losses, transitions and pain!

As a business owner, I made the choice to express my purpose and why through my business. I can choose to deepen and build my resiliency or lose focus and give in to my doubts and fears.

I consider myself a leader in business and life! Do you? Drop me a line and let me know your thoughts!

Learn more about me, Shelley Cox at I’ll introduce you to Career and Leadership Mindset habits that will help you lead with CALM Power, to attract more money, visibility, business growth and of course Resiliency.